The difference between someone great and a fool is whether or not their vision comes to fruition. But without vision, there is never a chance of greatness.
At dinner tonight, girl asked me if I thought I was hot. I gave it some thought and replied, “Well, I think I’m competitive. I’m attractive enough that I don’t need to work extra hard to get laid.” My breakdown was as follows:
Wit and Humor: 7/10
I think that’s a fair assessment. I can only get better with age anyway. :)
Anonymous asked: can i twerk on you?
Haha, thanks for the offer, but I’ll have to pass. ;)
Anonymous asked: why would you being csigendered identifying be a problem?
Well, it was a female space. I know that if I was in a queer space, I probably wouldn’t care for allies in the room.
I was at an Asian Pacific American feminist tea gathering the other day, mostly to show solidarity. When I was invited to attend by one of the organizers, I was very hesitant to attend because I didn’t want to 1.) take up space and 2.) make any of the women there feel uncomfortable with my presence as a cisgender male identifying individual. But I eventually went anyway. At first, I just sat and listened, it was very interesting and disheartening to hear some of the people in the room speak about their experiences in both API and non-API, corporate, government, and nonprofit spaces, and even in their own women spaces.
But there was a point where I just couldn’t keep myself from speaking. One of the women said, “I don’t like to think that we’re trying to change anyone. I don’t want to change anyone. I think what we’re doing with feminism is having conversations with others who may or may not think like us so we can understand each other. We don’t have to agree.” I felt such an immense need to respond to her, regardless of whether or not it was out of place for me to vocalize myself in a space not designated for someone like me. So I said:
"I think we are trying to change the way people think. Feminism, social justice, queer and people of color movements, these aren’t about just understanding each other and talking. I am out there to shift the way people think, what they believe, and how we are treated. I don’t want them to understand me and then continue living and acting the way they have their entire lives. I want my cousin to be able to look at me, speak to me, and acknowledge my queerness and my humanity. And that requires that he changes the way he thinks, believes, and acts toward queer individuals."
"Movements are political by nature. Politics is an ideological struggle, where justice is determined by the victor. I’m not trying to struggle for the sake of conversation, I’m fighting to win. And I’m feminist because I love my sisters and want them to have access to everything. But I’m also a feminist because feminism and gender equity is central to queer liberation. I am a feminist because women must be unshackled, gender roles demolished, and patriarchy crumbled before queer and non-gender identifying individuals can be free. Feminism is about change. Movements are about change. We must change the people around us."
My words may have been out of place and maybe even hostile, but I think…I felt okay with what I said. It was authentic, and I don’t think anyone can have an honest conversation about movement building or isms without framing it within a political and ideological context. It is a struggle between different interpretations of justice. And I want to see justice that liberates my people from the oppressive beliefs, norms, and structures that plague our current paradigm.